Why am I passionate about this?

As a full-time writer of creative non-fiction, I am passionately interested in what makes us human. Like most people. I have always been fascinated by friendship and have had many friends throughout my life. I decided to write about friendship when a good friend 'pruned' me, that is, ended our friendship. I was bewildered and hurt and wanted to understand what had happened, which led me to write True Friends. When I discussed the topic with others, it turned out that most people had also experienced a friend break-up, but it was not much written about—until now!


I wrote

True Friends

By Patti Miller,

Book cover of True Friends

What is my book about?

Friendships are among the most important relationships in our lives, often outlasting love affairs, marriages, even, at times, family connections.…

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The books I picked & why

Book cover of My Brilliant Friend

Patti Miller Why did I love this book?

My Brilliant Friend is a rich and absorbing novel about the intense friendship between two young girls in the slums of Naples in the 1950s. Both girls, Elena and Lila, are poor and clever, and while they are often competitive, they learn to rely on each other. Ferrante creates a detailed and fascinating world, pulling the reader into the colour and drama of a poor neigbourhood in post-war Neapolitan Italy. At the same she creates a powerful and unforgettable picture of two girls trying to create a future for themselves. I recommend this to any reader who likes a strong narrative, engaging characters, and fine writing.

By Elena Ferrante, Ann Goldstein (translator),

Why should I read it?

18 authors picked My Brilliant Friend as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

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From one of Italy's most acclaimed authors, comes this ravishing and generous-hearted novel about a friendship that lasts a lifetime. The story of Elena and Lila begins in the 1950s in a poor but…


Book cover of Embers

Patti Miller Why did I love this book?

This extraordinary novel by the Hungarian writer, Marai, was written in 1942. It reveals a friendship between two men who met when they were schoolboys. One, Henri, is from a privileged noble family, the other, Conrad, from a disadvantaged background, but they attend the same military academy together. One day Conrad disappears and Henri is left to wonder what happened to him. The book starts as Henri learns Conrad is about to return after 40 years of absence. The narrative is utterly compelling and the characters and their relationship are fascinating. It is one of those books that you can’t stop keep reading because you are so absorbed in the world the writer has created, but at the same time, you don’t want to finish so you put the book down to savour each moment

By Sándor Márai, Carol Brown Janeway (translator),

Why should I read it?

2 authors picked Embers as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

'Wonderful. Immensely moving' Daily Telegraph

As darkness settles on a forgotten castle at the foot of the Carpathian mountains, two men sit down to a final meal together. They have not seen one another in forty-one years. At their last meeting, in the company of a beautiful woman, an unspoken act of betrayal left all three lives shattered - and each of them alone. Tonight, as wine stirs the blood, it is time to talk of old passions and that last, fateful meeting.

'Extraordinary. Elegiac, sombre, musical and gripping. An immensely wise book' Observer

'A masterpiece. Works beautifully as a…


Book cover of Truth & Beauty: A Friendship

Patti Miller Why did I love this book?

Ann Patchett is a successful American novelist, and Truth and Beauty is her memoir about her friendship with the poet, Lucy Grealy. She writes beautifully about Grealy, her talent and her warm, engaging personality, but also about her struggles and eventual death. Patchett conveys the depth of a passionate friendship by letting the reader see all her thoughts and feelings, courageously looking at how we can love someone, but how they can also try us to our limits. It is a book for those who love literature and are fascinated by the depth and intricacy of a creative connection between humans.

By Ann Patchett,

Why should I read it?

4 authors picked Truth & Beauty as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it. This book is for kids age 14, 15, 16, and 17.

What is this book about?

From the bestselling author of The Dutch House, Commonwealth and Bel Canto, Winner of The Women's Prize for Fiction and the Pen/Faulkner Award.

When Ann Patchett and Lucy Grealy met in college they began a friendship that would define their lives. Lucy Grealy lost part of her jaw to childhood cancer, and a large part of her life to chemotherapy and endless reconstructive surgeries. Stoic but vulnerable, damaged by bullying but fascinated by fame, Lucy had an incandescent personality that illuminated those around her.

In this tender, brutal book, Ann Patchett describes Lucy's life and her own platonic love for…


Book cover of The Epic of Gilgamesh

Patti Miller Why did I love this book?

This book is simply the first written story ever found—and it’s about friendship! It was pressed into clay in the city of Nineveh around four thousand years ago and was re-found in the nineteenth century. It tells the story of a friendship between two men, Gilgamesh, the lord of his city, and Enkidu, ‘a wild man’ from the forests. The story recounts their adventures, then Enkidu’s death, and Gilgamesh’s grief at losing his friend. I find it extraordinary that so many thousands of years ago, human beings were concerned with the nature and power of friendship—it shows that the bonds of friendship are fundamental to human beings. 

By N. K. Sandars (translator), Penguin Classics,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked The Epic of Gilgamesh as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

Gilgamesh, King of Uruk, and his companion Enkidu are the only heroes to have survived from the ancient literature of Babylon, immortalized in this epic poem that dates back to the 3rd millennium BC. Together they journey to the Spring of Youth, defeat the Bull of Heaven and slay the monster Humbaba. When Enkidu dies, Gilgamesh's grief and fear of death are such that they lead him to undertake a quest for eternal life. A timeless tale of morality, tragedy and pure adventure, The Epic of Gilgamesh is a landmark literary exploration of man's search for immortality.


Book cover of Charlotte's Web

Patti Miller Why did I love this book?

This is the most beautiful children’s book about friendship. It tells the story of a friendship between Wilbur, a farmyard pig, and Charlotte, a spider. Charlotte is a spider who writes in her web and thereby saves Wilbur from the fate that awaits most farmyard pigs. Children love it for its sensitive portrayal of a warm-hearted friendship—and I love reading it for the beauty of its writing. It is a favourite to read aloud to children from the age of five—and a great first ‘chapter book’ for older children.

By E.B. White,

Why should I read it?

16 authors picked Charlotte's Web as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it. This book is for kids age 8, 9, 10, and 11.

What is this book about?

Puffin Classics: the definitive collection of timeless stories, for every child.

On foggy mornings, Charlotte's web was truly a thing of beauty . Even Lurvy, who wasn't particularly interested in beauty, noticed the web when he came with the pig's breakfast. And then he took another look and he saw something that made him set his pail down. There, in the centre of the web, neatly woven in block letters, was a message. It said: SOME PIG!

This is the story of a little girl named Fern, who loves a little pig named Wilbur - and of Wilbur's dear friend,…


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True Friends

By Patti Miller,

Book cover of True Friends

What is my book about?

Friendships are among the most important relationships in our lives, often outlasting love affairs, marriages, even, at times, family connections. The loss of a friend can be one of life’s most disturbing events, yet these ‘friend break-ups’ are little acknowledged in our culture.

In True Friends, acclaimed author Patti Miller recounts the joyful making and then painful ending of a long, close friendship. It is a deep and influential relationship in her life, but when it inexplicably unravels, Patti is left searching for answers. As she tries to make sense of this ending, Patti considers other important friendships throughout her life, questioning who we are drawn to, what we really know of each other, and why some friendships endure while others end.

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Book cover of What Walks This Way: Discovering the Wildlife Around Us Through Their Tracks and Signs

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